Polygamy to Oneness

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If I send this note to non-Muslim friends, this certainly is not meant to invite you to Islam. This is just to eliminate misunderstandings about Islam. Does not every religion always taught good?


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[] Islamic Polygamy (The Law)
[] Islamic Polygamy (The Essence)
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Polygamy from Islam?

After jihad fi sabilillah (struggling in the Way of Allah/God) topic, the topic of polygamy is the most controversial topics in Islam. Both topics are reaping a lot of lawsuits from outside of Islam, even by Muslims themselves.
Many people assume that the concept of polygamy is coming from Islam, but it is very wrong.
Other religions in the world also impose polygamy and even polyandry (see wikipedia).

Polygamy and the dignity of womanhood from time to time
Pre-Islamic Polygamy

The concept of polygamy has existed for thousands of years before Islam cames down to earth. In the Ancient Egyptian civilization and the Ancient Chinese, for example, the pharaoh and the emperors of every dynasty imposed concubinage system. The concubine a.k.a mistress's residence status just as the lust object of the ruling sex. Hm .. This system also seems to be still preserved by the owners of today's mistress. xD

"Polygami is better than Dollygami." Gang Dolly is prostitution place in Surabaya, Indonesia. 

In the era of pagan Arabs, in addition to polygamy, incestuous intercourse was lawful and common. For example, John Doe can make a wife barter transactions for a specified period with his uncle on the basis of agreement of both parties. It was democratic, yes. xD

So, so there. The position of the air at that time was worse than slaves; worse than cattle, and only parallel to the staple food. Oops! xD

"Is it true that the Quran had polygamy for reasons of lust?"

Islamic Polygamy (The Law)

Polygamy in Islam is a practice that is not prohibited, but also not recommended (Mubah). Islam allows a man married to four wives provided that the husband should be able to do justice to all his wife (Surat an-Nisa [4]: 3).

وإن خفتم ألا تقسطوا في اليتامى فانكحوا ما طاب لكم من النساء مثنى وثلاث ورباع فإن خفتم ألا تعدلوا فواحدة أو ما ملكت أيمانكم ذلك أدنى ألا تعولوا
"And if you fear you will not be able to do justice to (the rights) orphans (if you're married), then marry women (other) that you like: two, three, or four. Then if you fear you will not be able to do justice, then (marry) only one, or the slaves which ye have. "

Islam advocated polygamy for several reasons:
•The husband has extraordinary lust impulse that the wife could not satisfy his desires
• The wifes health situation in which she is always feeble and sick.
• Defending women who became the widower or the widow after her husband was killed in jihad to 
   uphold the religion of God.
• The wife can not gives birth due to health problems.

In the book of Ibn al-Athir, being married to more than one woman is an effort of social transformation. Mechanism married more than one woman who applied the prophet is a strategy to improve women's position in the Arab feudal tradition in the 7th century AD. At that time, the social value of a woman and a widow so low that a man can be married as much as they like. Instead, the Prophet restrict the practice of polygamy, criticized arbitrary behavior, and emphasized the necessity to do justice in more than one married woman.

The prophet Muhammad, the main prophet of Islam religion carried out the practice of polygamy in eight years of his life, beforehand he had only one wife for 28 years. After his wife at that time died (Khadijah) just he married several women. Most of them who are widowed, except Aisyah (the daughter of his friend, Abu Bakr). 

"Love the flowers, it will wither. Love to mankind, would be separated. Love to God, will be eternal."

Islamic Polygamy (The Essence)

"Knew, o Brother, had the wives and women as being ratified by islamic canon law not aimed at giving full rein to the desire of the lust, moreover to exhibit masculinity. An. Occasionally was not like this. The wives and the woman who were had by us were means that must be used by us to release our attachments to one subject that was loved by us. Because, the love of a man to one woman was very strong his re-card power compared with the love of a man to many women. Knew, o Brother, the yard behind islamic canon law that allowed the man to marry more than one woman was to be linked with the love to Allah. Ah. Therefore, the condition for justice that was meant in the provisions of the God's law not justice in sharing the love against the wives, but in aiming the orientation of the love at God. Because, by loving God then justice will be realised automatically. So, justice there should be not interpreted by justice divided attention to each wife according to consideration of the reason for the husband or the values who were followed by the community. Therefore, the wives and women who were had by us were means of aiming the orientation of the love only at God."( Suluk Abdul Jalil).

ما جعل الله لرجل من قلبين في جوفه 
Allah has not made for man two hearts in their sockets (Surat al-Ahzaab: 4)

From the last analysis above, insyaAllah in the long run all of us (especially Muslims) understood the real meaning of polygamy was only for the interests to give top priority to Allah. (See When loving Bertawaf http://www.facebook.com/note.php? Saved&&suggest&note id=314097386122). Give top priority to Allah was the obligation of each slave. Therefore, weighing anything the road that must be dealt with on herself (the wives got polygami), faced sincerely because of Allah. Therefore, this self-sacrifice insyaAllah will bear fruit heaven.

۞ إن ٱلله ٱشترى من ٱلمؤمنين أنفسهم وأموٲلهم بأن لهم ٱلجنة
Verily Allah has purchased of the believers, themselves and their property by providing
heaven for them. (Q. S. At-Tauba: 111)

Suggestion for the Muslim Women

• If your husband intend to carry out polygamy. 
Ask your husband what the reason is. If the answer is simply afraid to fall into adultery, is not necessarily the end goal for God comes first. Tell your husband: "I saw your passion is talking, either to prestige, showing your manhood, to show that you a fortune (and that he is a "best-seller creature", LOOOOL!)

If the reason he wanted to be a salik (facer spiritual path to God), you do not have choice than let your husband to God, not for his new wife. Lucky You have a husband who was aware of the nature of its creation. Fortunately you have a man elected. A person who does not long for heaven, but missed The Owner. (See note http://blogs.muxlim.com/MUXLIMO/why-god-created-the-creature/)
واصطنعتك لنفسي
.. and I have chosen you for Myself. (Q. S. Thaaha [20]: 41)


Do not worry, if your husband is a good Muslim, he would not dare lie about the real reason. Verily falsehood is rot and decay in the end still be detected.

Do not be tempted to sue, let alone reject polygamy Shari'a law. That could mean you have contracted the virus feminism. (jeng-jeng-jeng!! xD)
(See notes relating to the dangers of feminism for Muslim women: Allahism http://www.facebook.com/note.php?saved&&suggest&note_id=332444576122 )

• but please note:
It is not always polygamy needed by a muslim who seek God (salik), even been said that the decision whether or not polygamy is not on the authority of the salik/believer.

Did Allah's sweethearts be not people that by Him he heard, by Him he saw, by Him he walked, by him he knew, etc.... ?? ...

O Lord, rewarded on us like that has You showered to Your previous sweethearts ... amen O Lord.. ;) 

Worrying Scenery

 DUH!

ومن يشاقق الرسول من بعد ما تبين له الهدى ويتبع غير سبيل المؤمنين نوله ما تولى
And anyone who opposed the apostles after the obvious truth to him and follow the path that is not the way people Mumin, we let him free of error has ruled that ... (Surat An-Nisa (4): 115)

DUH!

OMG, he even shows his lots money to the public!  :tdown

اعلموا أنما الحياة الدنيا لعب ولهو وزينة وتفاخر بينكم وتكاثر في الأموال والأولاد كمثل غيث أعجب الكفار نباته ثم يهيج فتراه مصفرا ثم يكون حطاما وفي الآخرة عذاب شديد ومغفرة من الله ورضوان وما الحياة الدنيا إلا متاع الغرور
Know that the life of this world is but play and one of neglect, jewelry and glorify oneself between you and the proud-proud of the many wealth and children, such as rain-crop planting farmers amazing; then the plant becomes dry and you see the colors yellow and then destroyed. And in the Hereafter (later) there is a hard punishment and forgiveness from Allah and His pleasure. And the life of this world is nothing but a deceptive pleasure. (Surat al-Hadid (57): 20)

Allahu'alam. 

Adam Troy Effendy
By Pusaka Madinah
Published: 2011-05-31T17:20:00+07:00
Polygamy to Oneness
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